Is it important to be true to your word? How to be Loyal Be an honest and trustworthy person.

Loyalty is a moral and ethical concept, constancy in relationships and feelings, in the performance of duty, responsibilities, perseverance and honesty. To be true to your convictions and principles means to have a firm position.

Love is above all

That is why people are required to have a clear understanding of their positions and firm conviction in the chosen course. should become the basis of behavior and life priorities for everyone. And the task of adults is to instill in the growing individual responsibility for their actions and words, to lay down the correct concepts of morality.

Integrity and unprincipledness

People often make mistakes, that's nature. The world around us is changing, human views are changing. In childhood and adolescence, a person is dominated by a strict polarity of opinions. Good or bad, love or hate, right or criminal - these and only such are the distinctions in concepts. The absence of transitions and shades in relationships at this age is a common phenomenon.

Over time, people become wiser. The most subtle nuances of psychology are revealed to them. It turns out that the drunkard and rowdy neighbor heroically defended his children in the past, which is why he committed manslaughter and was convicted. In prison he changed, the loss of his family left an imprint on his character. So is it necessary to despise him with the same firmness for his current condition? Or should you change your attitude towards a person?

Sometimes principles need to be adjusted. Especially when they concern people nearby. Therefore, you don’t always need to put your integrity above humanity. And changing such attitudes is not at all considered a manifestation of unscrupulousness. It is rather life wisdom.

// Is it important to be true to your word?

What is loyalty? This seemingly easy question is very difficult to answer correctly. Everyone understands this concept differently. For some, being faithful means never violating your own principles and beliefs for anything, but for another person it means devoting your life to some specific cause.

What about being true to your word? Is it important to keep all your promises today? I think this is very important. You can rely on a person who is true to his word and will never let you down. In my opinion, the highest level of promise is an oath. Under no circumstances should it be violated.

If we turn to the heroes of Russian literature, we can see that they made promises and in most cases followed them. For me, a striking example of a person for whom it is important to be true to his word is from the novel by A.S. Pushkin "Eugene Onegin".

This woman, who fell in love with the main character of the work with all her heart, marries another man and takes a vow of fidelity to him. She overstepped her feelings, putting her own honor first in her life. This act deserves respect and admiration from readers, because not everyone loving girl I would have done exactly the same. And if we take into account the time in which the heroine lived, then breaking her oath to her husband would have resulted in disgrace for her. She couldn't allow this to happen. It’s quite easy to give in to your sudden feelings, but maintaining honesty and respect in the family is much more difficult. Even Eugene for the first time realized what fidelity is and how to love correctly.

Loyalty to the Motherland is another important theme in literature. , hero of the story “The Captain's Daughter” by A.S. Pushkin is even ready to die for the Fatherland, because he took such an oath. He is not afraid of death or possible injuries. He, unlike Shvabrin, cannot even imagine a situation where he would decide to go over to the side of the enemy. For me, such an act is the pinnacle of loyalty to one’s people and one’s country. One can even say that by betraying the Motherland, a person betrays himself, his family, his principles and feelings.

Not changing your word in any situation is the truest manifestation of a person’s decency. Especially if this very loyalty causes suffering to people, but despite this they do not give up their promises. Today, not every person is capable of this. My position is not to make vain promises, so as not to let myself and other people down. This is the only way to stay true to your word.

How to be a faithful husband

Cheating in a relationship

How to be a faithful husband

Fidelity is a rather speculative concept, which, nevertheless, is one of the things without which marriage cannot exist. Everyone understands perfectly well what fidelity is, but if you ask for an exact definition, confusion arises.

A man either talks about fidelity in such a way that his wife asks: “Why is this not included in the concept of fidelity, are you doing this behind my back?” - and he has to make excuses. Or the man lists absolutely everything, independently turning his marriage into a prison sentence.

Therefore, when we talk about fidelity, we do not mean just one betrayal with another woman. This concept includes many connections: spiritual, ideological, material, physical, and so on. And in each of these areas, a man can cool off towards his wife, thereby transferring his interests to others.

Is it hard to be a faithful man?

If a man loves his wife, her physical characteristics fully meet the requirements of his sexuality, they have a similar outlook on life, and the man’s work brings him tremendous pleasure, then there can be no question of cheating, right? But no. The peculiarity is that men are quite hormonally dependent creatures, and on one of these climbs a man can have his head blown off. Of course, this will not necessarily be cheating with another woman; there may be other options.

A man at the age of 40 buys a motorcycle and begins to ride around the neighborhood on it, completely turning his life into a “wanderer’s path.” Naturally, this state of affairs cannot but affect the marriage. After all, he used to devote this time to his wife and family, but now he devotes it to his motorcycle. He betrayed the principles of common sense and betrayed his family.

A man, a father of 2 children, at the age of 35 understands that his calling is to serve in a monastery. Therefore, he leaves his job, leaves his wife and children to their fate and goes to serve God. For himself, he understands that this is the right path, but his wife calls it all tomfoolery and madness. Yes, he did not sleep with another woman, but he betrayed his family, the good purpose does not matter here.

The wife and husband agreed to earn some money to help their child go to college. But the man, instead of taking part-time jobs, began to stay in the garage with the men, drinking alcohol. As a result, either their common goal will not be achieved, or the woman will have to take everything in own hands. The man betrayed this idea, he did not remain faithful to the agreement.

Therefore, it can be said quite obviously that to be a faithful man- This is extremely hard work and great responsibility. After all, such fidelity implies great emotional stress and the possibility of breakdowns. Believe me, we've seen a lot of good men who just snapped and started to work miracles. They failed to remain a faithful man.

What to do to be a faithful husband

Personal time and hobbies. In order not to break down during moments of hormonal rise, you should have some kind of “neutral” activity that will help you calm down a little and let off steam. Let it be playing computer games, or hunting and fishing, even the same get-togethers with men can be quite useful.

However, you should be independent of such a hobby. In other words, if you need to do things, then you will do things, and not waste time on hobbies to the detriment of the main goal.

In reality, many “seductresses” tell their unsuccessful stories when they tried to seduce their boss, and he looked at them without any interest and ran off on bike rides with his friends.

Explanations to your wife. Whatever happens at work and whatever plans you have, you should always tell your spouse about it and persistently seek understanding. For example, if you want to build a garage, then you must explain everything to your wife step by step and even show her the plan. So that in the future she knows what you are doing and what you want to achieve.

This greatly increases the stability of the relationship, because now your wife will understand your actions and partially share them. This, of course, at first glance seems unnecessary and insignificant, but this is exactly what can save you from depression and a “roaring” mood.

Fighting personal weakness. To be honest, in a situation where a man tries to please his wife and “bends in” a little to her wishes, there is nothing wrong. However, if it comes to a critical point with a domineering and selfish spouse, then the likelihood of cheating increases. The principle of contrast works.

In his home, a man feels weak and downtrodden; he cannot spread his wings and flutter, because his wife so carefully lowers him to the ground over and over again. And here another woman appears, who, on the contrary, praises the man and allows him to be in charge. Here either he begins to revel in his position and begins to “become a tough guy”, insulting this woman the way his wife insults him, then he is simply sent away. Or he understands that he will be better off with this woman and succumbs to her charms.

Of course, this situation partly has a positive connotation if the wife is truly a tyrant. But most often it is the man himself who allows her to behave this way. Therefore, to avoid such situations, you need to keep yourself at your best at home.

Having sex. Even with a beautiful wife who is wonderful in bed, a man can be taken to the side for the sake of variety, this is a question of temperament and character. However, in order to avoid situations where a man begins to howl due to a complete lack of sex with his wife, this issue must be resolved immediately.

We discuss this issue in another article on our portal; you can find a link to it at the end of the article.

The meaning of family life. In order not to break down overnight, you must be clearly aware of why you started all this in the first place. If you were planning to be happier with this girl, then do just that and don't give up.

Yes, we all have difficult times, as well as the desire to send everything to one place and close ourselves off from all problems, but, unfortunately, problems cannot be solved this way. Therefore, be a man who brings his affairs to the end, even if this is a lifelong matter!

Being faithful to others is not so easy, as it requires patience and generosity. Loyalty is the ability to put caring for others first and be there for them in good times and bad. To show loyalty to friends, family, and loved ones, be honest, trustworthy, supportive, and generous. Maintain healthy boundaries with others to be loyal in a productive manner.

Steps

Be an honest and trustworthy person

1. Express your feelings sincerely. Try not to embellish your true feelings when talking to friends, family members or a loved one. To be faithful means to not be afraid to be honest and straightforward. If you lie, you will create distrust in yourself and you will not be considered a loyal person.

   • For example, you might say to a friend, “I should say exactly what I think about this,” or say to a family member, “To be honest, I'm not sure this is a good idea...”
   • Express your sincere opinions without judgment. Instead of saying, “That's a bad idea,” or, “I wouldn't do that,” try saying something like, “It's up to you, but if I were you, I'd do it this way...”

2. Don't gossip. Talking behind people's backs is dishonest and unreliable. Don't believe gossip and don't gossip about people close to you. If you have questions or concerns, talk to the person directly instead of getting caught up in gossip and rumors.

   • If you hear other people gossiping around you, encourage them to stop. For example: “Let's not gossip or spread rumors,” or “I would rather talk to my friend or partner than believe gossip.”

3. Keep your obligations. Come to a meeting with friends if you promised. Fulfill obligations to family members. Be there for your loved one if you have given your word to do so. If you stick to your promises, you will show people that they can count on you for their support.

   • Don't be irresponsible or cancel plans at the last minute, otherwise people will think you're not trustworthy. If you are not careful in what you do, you can quickly develop a bad reputation for not keeping your promises.
   • Be on time and be there for people if you promise to. Prove by your actions that if you said you would come, then it will happen.

4. Stand up for others when necessary. Support your friends, family and partner. Stand by their side and cover their back when they need it. Show them that you can be loyal and supportive when they need it most.

   • For example, you can stand up for a friend when someone is trying to slander or humiliate him. Or stand up for your partner when they need support during a grueling discussion or argument.

Support others and be generous

1. Support the goals, ambitions and dreams of others. Try to show genuine interest in the goals and dreams of your friends and family members. Ask questions about their ambitions and aspirations. If they ask for help in achieving a goal, give them as much support as possible.

   • For example, you can support a friend's dream of becoming a musician by attending his concerts and promoting his music in in social networks. Or support a family member's career goal by offering to help them prepare for an exam or test.

2. Be a good listener. Show your commitment to others by taking time to listen to them. Maintain eye contact and nod when listening to a family member or friend. Do not interrupt your interlocutor and do not speak with one voice. It is better to focus on the person and pay attention to him if he has trusted you.

   • You can also reassure friends, family, and your partner that you are available to listen to them at any time. You can say, “Just know that I am here if you need someone to talk to,” or, “I am always ready to listen and hear you.”

3. Offer positive solutions and ideas. Be supportive and generous by focusing on positive aspects situation or conflict. Try to come up with solutions and ideas that will lift the spirit and productivity of others.

   • For example, you can support a friend going through a breakup by reminding him of all the positive things that are happening in his life. Or support a sick family member by exuding friendliness, positivity and energy around him to provide moral support.

4. Don't judge others for their choices or actions. Learn to have empathy for others so you can support them instead of judging them. Replace the desire to judge the person with the desire to support him.

   • For example, instead of judging a friend who is struggling with addiction, support his efforts to get help. Additionally, your family's different lifestyles shouldn't make you forget why these people are important to you.
   • Try not to be afraid of lifestyles or ideas that are different from yours, but rather embrace them. The hardest people to empathize with are those who are most different from ourselves.

Maintain healthy boundaries

1. Consciously choose to give devotion to others. Your loyalty should be something you give to others because you want it, not because you feel you have to. Don't feel obligated to be loyal to friends or family members who expect or demand it. Better be loyal to those you trust and can rely on.

   • Keep in mind that being faithful does not mean blindly following what others want or expect. Instead, you should feel a desire to be loyal to these people based on their character and actions.

2. Don't let other people take advantage of your devotion. Be aware of any friends, family members, or other loved ones who begin to take advantage of your loyalty. The relationships in your life should be harmonious and fair, where you receive as much as you give. This will prevent others from taking advantage of your loyal and caring nature.

   • If you notice that a person is taking advantage of you, take time to talk to them and explain how you feel. Solve the problem, don't ignore it. Express your feelings honestly and openly. And then the person himself will decide whether to change his behavior and whether to respond positively to your concerns.

3. Maintain your independence. Allow yourself to act on your desires from time to time. Spend plenty of time with friends and family, but also take care of yourself. Avoid being overly dependent on other people, otherwise you may start to burn out and become less confident.

   • For example, you can choose one day a week to do your own thing without your loved one. Or distribute the week so that you have time to chat with friends and be alone with yourself.

I touched on the topic of betrayal, but now I would like to dwell on fidelity in more detail, and try to answer the question: a Is it easy to be faithful these days??
Recently I came across one interesting video, I will show it to you a little lower, where a man, one might say, resisted temptation and remained faithful to his wife, as he said, this is fundamental for him.

But, unfortunately, this does not always happen, and it is sometimes very difficult for a person to control his desires and emotions, especially when he cannot fully account for his actions, being, for example, in a state. Because of this, cheating happens much more often than we might imagine.

As I already wrote: people with money, power, and authority among others are especially susceptible to this. This video once again shows the downside of men's wealth, which most modern girls hope for.

People don't really think about their words when they stand at the altar and vow to be faithful until the end of their days, not realizing how difficult it really is. Absolutely everyone has had such situations when a person was faced with a choice (or is yet to come). And in order to overcome yourself, you need to have perseverance, will and character.

I think that remaining faithful is actually not so difficult if you value a person and are also prepared in advance for such turns of fate. I would say that life tests us for strength, whether we can resist and preserve what we have acquired earlier, or, if we succumb to temptation, survive the accompanying negative moments that undoubtedly await us in the future.

Everyone decides for themselves what to do in this or that situation, makes a choice and takes full responsibility for their actions. Being faithful and not committing betrayal towards a loved one is many times more difficult than, at the behest of emotion, succumbing to momentary weakness, which can subsequently jeopardize your entire previous life.

I also believe that love and fidelity are inseparable parts of a single whole. If you cheat on your other half, and at the same time say that you love her, and hide behind various excuses, then we can say that you are deceiving yourself first of all, because betrayal and love cannot be together. What do you think: is it easy to be faithful??

P.S. And in conclusion, I would like to advise you to simply be attentive to your significant other, and pay attention to their needs and wants, for example, if your girlfriend wanted to buy new clothes, then you need to listen to her.

And as always the song of the article: Arina and Size Project – Snow is falling.